Natural hair care routines taught me this truth: you deserve systems that work with you — not ones that demand you twist yourself around them.
Natural hair care routines taught me this truth: you deserve systems that work with you — not ones that demand you twist yourself around them.
When I first started growing out my natural hair, I tried to follow all the routines. Protective styles, twists, multiple products — the “standard advice” that worked for the bloggers and YouTubers I watched.
But instead of helping, it was exhausting. Frustrating. And worse, some of the routines made my hair break off.
Eventually, I stopped trying to force these routines to work. I went back to basics, learned how hair actually responds, experimented with what I could stop doing, and even looked outside the natural hair community for ideas.
And I built a routine that worked for me.
👉🏾 Most systems are designed with one kind of user in mind. But when that design doesn’t match how your client thinks, the system itself becomes the barrier.
Here’s what I’ve learned to do differently as a professional:
- Stop leading with the “supposed to’s.” Instead of dropping clients into your standard system, ask: what do they actually need to get results or stay compliant? Start there.
- Build from what works. If they already have something that helps, optimize it instead of replacing it.
- Give options, not ultimatums. Lay out a couple of ways forward and let the client choose what feels doable.
Because if a system doesn’t fit the way your client thinks, they won’t use it — no matter how “right” it looks on paper.
For neurodivergent business owners, systems need to adapt to them, not the other way around.
